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Pete Sampras, Nerves and Making Great Presentations

| posted by Bud Bilanich

If you want to become a dynamic communicator, you need to do three things: 1) become a great conversationalist; 2) write clearly and succinctly; and 3) present well – to groups of two or 200.

Public speaking frightens many people. There is the oft quoted study that when people were asked what scares them the most, speaking in front of a group came up first; death was fourth – meaning that most people would rather die than give a talk.

I realize that this is not true in a literal sense, but many people are really afraid of speaking in front of a group. What about you? Does public speaking make your really nervous?

Unfortunately, you have to be good at presentations if you want to succeed in your life and career. This doesn’t mean that you should never be nervous. It means that you shouldn’t let your nerves become so debilitating that you make poor presentations.

Cathy gave me Pete Sampras’ new book, A Champion’s Mind, for my birthday. If you read this blog with some regularity, you know that I am a huge tennis fan. Pete has written a great book, for tennis fans, and for those people who want to get an inside look at how a great champion became a great champion.

Do you remember Pete? Did you like his style, or like many, did you find him boring? How do you think he would stack up against today’s top players, Rafael Nadal and Roger Federer? Please leave a comment, letting us know.

I bring up Pete’s book here because of something he has to say about nerves. In 1992, he lost the US Open final to Stefan Edberg. Here is what he had to say about that match…

“The real giveaway, I came to realize, was that I hadn’t been nervous before the match. There are two kinds of nervous in tennis: bad nervous, which can make you freeze up, play an inhibited game or choke; and good nervous, which is a sign that the match you are about to play really means a lot to you – a sign that you can’t wait to get out there and mix it up with your opponent, even if you’re not guaranteed the win.”

I find this to be true about presentations as well. Presentation bad nervous means that you are so frightened and nervous that you do a poor job of communicating. Presentation good nervous means that you are ready to go, you’re feeling prepared and anxious to begin, and that you’ll do a great job of communicating.

I do hundreds of talks every year. I never worry if I’m a little nervous and on edge beforehand because that means that I’m going to do a good job. I worry when I am not somewhat nervous. Just like Pete Sampras, when this happens, I’m often flat and don’t do as good a job as I’m capable. (Unfortunately, this is about the only comparison I can draw between myself and Pete.)

The common sense point here is simple. It’s OK to be nervous before a presentation. In fact, it’s a good thing because, as Pete Sampras says, the talk you are about to give “really means a lot to you.” The trick is to channel your nerves and nervous energy into doing a dynamic presentation – one that not only communicates your information clearly and succinctly, but one that shows your passion for your topic. The best way to get to the state that Pete calls “good nervous” is to know your material, and to practice it out loud.

That’s my take on Pete Sampras’ thoughts on good nervous and bad nervous, and how to create good nervous before your next presentation. What’s yours? Please leave a comment sharing your presentation triumphs and horror stories. As always, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and comments. Thanks for reading – and writing.

Dynamic communication is one of the five keys to success that I discuss in Straight Talk for Success.

Bud

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August 29, 2008 at 1:19am

John Reddish
I can tell Bud loves his tennis and he makes some good points about creative nervousness. I think, though, he double faulted in serving up this piece. Becoming a great conversationalist can be important - but to be effective you must first connect with your audience. Engaging and listening to your client/audience before walking on stage and letting that listening guide your presentation's content is what I've found to be most valuable (and it reduces pre-speech angst). Telling anecdotes and stories that relate to audience issues and concerns both brings home your points and engages their imaginations. In 30 years of speaking, I am always humbled by the fact that people often remember my stories more vividly than they remember me. And that's OK because it shows they got the message and it took. Being clear and concise is also important. Typically you have less than an hour for a speech and less than a day for many workshops. But Bud references written clarity. The spoken word tends to be a different animal. Think of the word-laden PowerPoint presentations we've all seen (and many of us are guilty of having created - myself included) that are hard to read/grasp or digest in the time allotted. Talking "points" are just that - crisp, concise and content/concept-rich. Telling them too much is usually worse than sharing just a few gems. Finally, you have to be real. Most audiences know when you are reading from a script or speaking academically (haven't been there, done that - you know what I mean). If you don't know your stuff "spot on" it's enough to make any speaker nervous. As Bob Hope said, "You don't rehearse in front of the audience." They usually don't like it. When you are real, when your content is relevant and when you resonate with your audience, your speech becomes a thing of beauty and value. It only then that you become a dynamic communicator, no matter what size the group. That's Bud's first fault, as I see it. His second fault focuses on th side trips he takes leaving us waiting for his return, particularly the side trips about Pete's book and how Pete might fare with today's players. I wanted more from this piece and I believe Bud has more to give. Next time it's Bud's serve, maybe I'll find out. Now about sharing. I don't know about good and bad nervousness, and I don't get nervous often. When I get nervous, though, I consider it my fault. I'm performing for the audience, and, like the stage actor, it's my job to make the performance work. If off-stage, I take a few deep breaths and center myself. That usually works. If on-stage, I typically introduce a thinking point or short exercise, followed by sharing, focusing audience energy to something other than me and my anxiety while I breathe and center. It works on-stage, too. Thanks, Bud, you got me thinking.

September 2, 2008 at 12:03pm

Bud Bilanich
John: Thanks for your comment. Yes, I do love tennis, and I've been enjoying this year's US Open. In your comment, you've touched on a lot more about public speaking than I was trying to do in my post. I was just trying to point out the difference in what Pete calls "good nervous" and "bad nervous" -- not to do a mini course on presentations -- which you did quite well. Even though I am an experienced speaker, I find that I need to have a little "good nervous" going on if I am going to do a good talk -- I equate qood nervous to butterflies before a sporting event. I enjoyed your comment very much and would like to continue a discussion of your thoughts on what makes for a good presentation. All the best, BB

September 21, 2008 at 11:58pm

John Reddish
Bud, It would be a pleasure. How would you like to proceed? Best regards, John

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